There are a lot of guides on choosing a wedding theme. Magazines are published on a constant basis; Pinterest has taken off as the most useful app for wedding desires and everyone from florists to wedding planners have a stake in the wedding themes business. When you are planning a wedding what many people won’t tell you is that you may not need a theme.

Choosing a wedding theme

If you want a completely styled wedding, say in a 1950’s theme or set around a place you were fond of growing up then there is definitely a way to get all those ideas into your wedding. If you just want a wedding to be a memorable day choosing a wedding theme may be going too far. The core of a theme is simply that the styles involved in a wedding are cohesive. That all the different aspects of your arrival, the church or registry office and the reception work together to evoke the same thoughts and feelings and that is the really important part of choosing a wedding theme. Sometimes it is just easier to deal with these ideas as a theme rather than an idea on its own.

The important part is the cohesion. For many women there will be one key area of the wedding setting that is important to them. Maybe it is a particular example of architecture to a design student, a particular culture or merging of cultures to people from different areas and for others again it will be a lack of cohesion; the wildness and mad feeling reminiscent of the adventure of their romance. When it comes to designing something and planning something it is often helpful to think of a word or a sentence that you feel sums up the whole idea and experience which is where the notion of a theme comes from. However it doesn’t have to be a defined theme, an idea statement can serve as a reminder for you while you consider the different options. It is something that you can keep in mind as you evaluate your plans and have a simple thought ticking over in your mind to see if a particular idea will work for your overall plan.

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Some friends of mine who recently married are avid swing dancers. She is very talented, he is useless and has no rhythm at all. What they kept in mind when planning their wedding was not a theme but an idea, “Swirling energy.” It represented what they loved most about their favourite time together; her gracefulness and his enthusiasm. When picking a dress she wanted something that would bounce and flow as she danced.When choosing a videographer they wanted someone who could get right into the mix and show movement, excitement, adventure and originality.

Choosing a wedding theme

Choosing a wedding theme can be very helpful, but it is more important to have a design idea. The 1950’s could mean very different things to different people, your grandmother will have one idea from being a young woman at the time, your mother another from being a child at the time and you will have another idea from watching the films, listening to the music and seeing the styles of the time. You don’t have to pick a theme as sometimes a simple little statement about what is important for you and what you want to take from your day will work just as well. A statement of intent will make things far easier, more on target and far more personal than going with a style or theme idea you saw on Pinterest.